Its really easy to focus on what we don't have rather than what we do. Take it from me, Iv'e spent the past month or so wasting time thinking about how much I hate my body, how I cant drive, how I feel so un-confident about myself, how I wish I could lead a more exciting life without worrying about everything.
Sound familiar? Do you find you are constantly searching for some fulfillment?
Its likely that you are actually doing pretty good in life, but we as human's and in particular us insecure lot!we are choosing to ignore those good things and concentrating on what we don't have rather than what we do have.
So what can we do to feel better about lives and ourselves?
Its not an easy process, but acceptance is a great way of learning to let go of these unhelpful thoughts. When you choose to accept, it frees up that inner perfection that we strive for. You may have body hang ups, spend ages in front of the mirror analysing your stomach, hips or butt, saying to yourself, I hate what i see, I need to change and quick. You may wish you had the perfect social life, with friends who listen to you when you're down and give advice and cheer you up in an instant, when really they'd rather go on a hot date or hang out with friends you don't know. Or maybe you have a boss at work who just persistently gets on your nerves.
Now, you can continue to wallow and be upset about these things, or you can accept that its the way it is. We all have things in life that we don't particularly like, but if there is no way of positively changing the issue then the only way to come to peace about it is to choose to accept it. When we learn to accept, we learn to let go of what holds us back and brings us down.
I've been feeling so un-confident lately, but I have to focus on the positives. I have a wonderful fiance, amazing family, love and a roof over my head. I'm good at caring for others, art, creativity, listening, and writing. I may not feel body satisfied but I have to choose to accept that this is me, and focus on eating well and exercising.
These are my positives, I need to look at how far I've come, and so do you. Chances are you too have overcome a lot of hard obstacles this year, instead of ending this year thinking "I've accomplished nothing this year and a new one is just around the corner" Maybe change that thought and put a positive spin on things "its been a hard year, but I've gained knowledge and I got through it and am stronger now". I'm anxious about the new year and what it may bring, but I'm also looking forward to the prospect of getting my life back on track. If you have goals, grab them and believe that you can reach them.
Confidence doesn't have to come from how you look or what you have or earn. It comes from within. Listen to your inner friend and tell yourself what amazing qualities and talents you have, you'll be suprised how good you will feel when you give yourself positive affirmations and a proper pat on the back, just for being you!!!!
Positive affirmations
progress not perfection
Your faith has got to be greater than your situation! Speaking the words of life will uproot the weeds in your life that try to slow down or spoil your harvest. Take back your power!!!
I deserve to be happy
I have faith and belief in God and myself
I have the power to realise and achieve my goals
I am valuable
I deserve to succeed
I forgive myself
I have inner peace
Believe you are abundant you will create abundance.
The opinions of others doesn't matter.
Life is beautiful - your existence is stunning
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others''
